Very SAD News (UPDATED)
The sadness of the news here isn’t something I can really put into words right now. After checking with Alicia (in an effort to do my best to handle this appropriately), I think the best thing I can do is simply pass along the news and then refer readers to Alicia’s own blog post.
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THE BIRTH MOTHER CHANGED HER MIND.
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Read Alicia’s post about it HERE. ***(see note below)
Alicia will, understandably, be taking a break from blogging. She has been absolutely inundated with messages in the last couple of days. Please just keep Alicia and Josh in your thoughts at this difficult time.
***UPDATED AT 10:59 PM:
The link above to Alicia’s blog post regarding this situation no longer works because Alicia deleted the entire post. It is hard for me to comprehend how or why anyone would post hurtful comments on her post about this situation.
Her husband has since posted this on her blog:
Please bear in mind that Josh and Alicia were out of town following a tragic death in the family when they got a call informing them that a birth mother had chosen them. Then, today, they found out the baby they expected as soon as next week is not being put up for adoption after all. Finally, when Alicia posted on her blog about this… someone posted upsetting comments. Please send positive energy to Josh and Alicia. They have been through so much! Thank you.
This post was written by Jeanne at http://chronichealing.com. Copyright © Jeanne — chronichealing.com. All rights reserved.
“Peace is not something you wish for; it’s something you make, something you do, something you are, and something you give away.” ~~ Robert Fulghum
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Such a sadness that I can never fully understand… I will pray for them and hope that God will help them with their pain.
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I’m just so sad.
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Melissa,
It really is so, so sad. It is mind-boggling what they have been through.
Jeanne
Alicia,
I’m just so sad too.
Jeanne
That really sucks but I strongly feel everything will work out for the best yet. I really do.
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I’m so devastated for her. Not fair at all.
Hang in there, Yaya. I love ya, girl!
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I will keep praying for them. They are good people and good things will happen for them.
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Jannie,
Since you posted this comment, there has been another twist. Nasty comments were left on Alicia’s blog and she deleted the entire post about this adoption loss because she was so hurt by them.
I just updated this post accordingly.
As far as things working out for the best in the long run, I doubt if Alicia is ready to hear that just yet but I believe I know what you mean.
I just wish I knew some way to make her feel better. This is a devastating blow.
Jeanne
Alyssa,
It is a devastating blow. They have been through so much. This is just cruel. I think “not fair” is an understatement.
So many people love and care about her. She will need everyone’s support… especially after nasty comments were left on her blog post about the adoption loss… prompting her to pull the whole post. Very sad!
Jeanne
Lana,
They are totally amazing people and they will heal from this crushing blow. They are very strong. I just wish I knew how to help!
Jeanne
Jeanne,
I cannot believe what I am reading… people attacked Alicia for posting how she felt?? How awful, I just cannot believe it and I just wish the world were full of loving people like you and Alicia and not those who are out to harm others.
Sorry I couldn’t reply to your last email, it was getting very late here and I had to go to bed. As it was I barely made it up this morning and now this extra sad news makes me wish I’d stayed in bed that little bit longer… I just cannot get my head around it
Amanda
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Jeanne:
I am sure that it was never meant to be. They were already going through alot and things just didn’t work out. They need time and space to sort through this all. They are good people and even though I only know Alicia from the blog world, I just have good feelings about her. She will be a great mother and her chance will come, and when it does, it will be an amazing journey for her.
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Amanda,
I know. It’s very difficult to understand. Yes, her post grieving this tremendous loss was attacked. As I told her earlier, I believe whoever left the hurtful comments must certainly have some issues of their own that they are projecting onto her and it has nothing to do with her post at all really. Essentially, her honest and grieving post triggered the inappropriate comments she received but it’s not about her. It’s just very unfortunate that she had to be upset by it (as anyone would be)! It’s just sad all the way around. As is so often the case with mean-spirited blog comments, these were left anonymously. It’s easy to take pot shots at someone behind the cloak of anonymity. I did what I could to try to get her to see that it’s not about her and not something for her to take personally.
Please don’t apologize. I’m sorry you started your day with sad news. It’s hard to comprehend. I really believe firmly that these comments were made by someone who has issues and that Alicia can’t take it personally. As you know, she does so much good and helps so many. Sadly, these things (attacks) happen on the Internet midst all of the good things. It’s all part of the package, so to speak. So, I’m hoping that she can try to forget the mean-spiritedness and focus on the enormous amount of positive energy being directed her way by the many people who care about her very much.
Jeanne
Lana,
I agree that they need time and space to process this loss and move forward. They are wonderful, strong, caring people who help others. Many people who care about them very much are “standing in their corner” right now. They need time to heal from this latest, devastating blow.
Jeanne
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