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Tori Amos On Her Miscarriages

The holidays can be particularly difficult for those who have experienced miscarriages, pregnancy loss, adoption loss, and/or are experiencing infertility.

As my friend Alicia has written about extensively on her blog Yaya Stuff, people often don’t know how to interact with others who are struggling with these issues. Awareness is crucial. The pain of going through these experiences is bad enough without society not knowing how to support the people who face these challenges.

I came across a UK interview of Tori Amos speaking regarding her miscarriages. I sent the video to Alicia yesterday and it resonated with her. While the video is not available in embedded form, it may be viewed via this link:

Tori Amos miscarriage interview

My heart goes out to all of my friends who are struggling with these issues.

“Healing takes courage, and we all have courage, even if we have to dig a little to find it”.
~~ Tori Amos

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1 AllisonNo Gravatar { 01.03.10 at 8:50 pm }

Thank you for sharing this video Jeanne. It’s so true that people don’t know how to react and awareness is sorely needed.
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2 JeanneNo Gravatar { 01.03.10 at 10:21 pm }


From talking with so many people who have suffered such losses, it is clear that awareness really is desperately needed. The losses are brutal enough without people making insensitive remarks or avoiding talking to someone because they don’t know what to say. Hopefully as more and more people are speaking up about it, things will improve. There certainly is plenty of room for improvement in our society.


3 Jannie FunsterNo Gravatar { 01.04.10 at 2:07 pm }

It is such a heartbreak, a deep deep sorrow. I remember from my 3 miscarriages. A sad and lonely place to be.

I wish I could take away the pain of anyone who has to endure this. I wish I could hug them, each and every one and say that things will be okay in the end. Some how. All sorrow will be gone forever some day.

My words are inadequate, sorry.

Peace and love to you all.
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4 YayaNo Gravatar { 01.04.10 at 2:51 pm }

Thank you again for finding this video. It is so powerful.
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5 jingleNo Gravatar { 01.04.10 at 5:16 pm }


what thoughtful doing and informative video you have here,
you carry a kind heart for those who happen to be the unfortunate in child rearing, getting pregnant, and healthy pregnancy..

Big heart, Extraordinary Acts!

Pray for you and your troubled friends.
take care, happy 2010.
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6 JeanneNo Gravatar { 01.04.10 at 5:43 pm }


I am so, so sorry you went through that. I remember when you wrote about your miscarriages: here.

Like you, I wish I could take away the pain of anyone who has to endure this.

A friend and I were talking yesterday. Her sister has been through many miscarriages and she was talking about how there are “no words” to adequately describe the pain. So, I don’t really think anyone has words that are adequate. I do, however, believe that awareness is absolutely vital to getting people the support they need to deal with such huge losses.

Peace and love to you too, Jannie… and (as you said) to all.


7 JeanneNo Gravatar { 01.04.10 at 5:54 pm }


Thank you for “previewing” this video before I posted it here. I wanted to get feedback on it before posting it because I knew it would be quite emotional for some people to watch. I think it’s worth noting that one of the points she hits home in the video is that there is inadequate support for women who experience miscarriages and their partners… and that awareness is needed, which I know you’ve written quite a bit about). I found it a very powerful video as well.


8 Jannie FunsterNo Gravatar { 01.06.10 at 2:29 pm }

Ahh, it’s all behind me now. It is Alicia I feel for. But I really think things WILL work out.

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9 JeanneNo Gravatar { 01.06.10 at 2:32 pm }


Yes, I feel for Alicia too. I also really think things will work out for her. Did you see her latest post? They made the final five families for an adoption of a 3 year old. See her blog for details.


10 PoobaNo Gravatar { 01.07.10 at 11:56 pm }

Wow, what incredible insight she has. She is right, there aren’t many people out there that are aware of how miscarriages affect a person. Just like Tori said, there’s no coffin, no tangible thing to show for your loss. People don’t see how it truly is death and just because a child never made it out of it’s mother’s womb, does not mean that child never existed. It is a loss.
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11 JeanneNo Gravatar { 01.08.10 at 1:07 am }


I agree that Tori has a very effective way of explaining it, when she discusses her own losses, so that those who have been blessed not to have experienced such loss can get a glimpse of understanding about it. Awareness on this subject is so sorely needed. Yes, it absolutely is a loss… and a profound one at that.


12 JeanneNo Gravatar { 01.10.10 at 7:34 pm }


I apologize for the delay in posting your comment. As I explained on the other comment of yours that I just posted, this comment was diverted to my Akismet folder and I just discovered it. I see that you follow Jannie Funster’s blog. Jannie is wonderful!

This video really seemed to capture (in just a short clip) what so many women have told me over the years. In participating in monthly meetings of endometriosis support groups from 1992 – 2008, I met many women who had experienced such devastating losses. In the time since I started my blog, I have met many more women who have suffered through such pain and grief.

I think it really is important for society as a whole to support those who suffer these losses. Hopefully, by increasing awareness people will become more sensitive and supportive.

Thank you very much for your supportive words and prayers!

Best wishes to you in the new year.


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