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Second Annual ‘Engage With Grace’

This is my second annual Engage With Grace post. I blogged about this project initially here: Engage With Grace: The One Slide Project (VIDEO INCLUDED). I encourage you to check out last year’s post first. This one will make more sense if you do so. This year’s post (see below) was written by Alexandra Drane and the Engage With Grace team.


From Engage With Grace:

Last year at Thanksgiving weekend, many of us bloggers participated in the first documented blog rally to promote Engage With Grace, a movement aimed at having all of us understand and communicate our end-of-life wishes.

It was a great success, with over 100 bloggers in the healthcare space and beyond participating and spreading the word. Plus, it was timed to coincide with a weekend when most of us are with the very people with whom we should be having these tough conversations – our closest friends and family.

Our original mission to get more and more people talking about their end of life wishes hasn’t changed. But it’s been quite a year. So we thought this holiday, we’d try something different.

A bit of levity.

At the heart of Engage With Grace are five questions designed to get the conversation started. We’ve included them at the end of this post. They’re not easy questions, but they are important.

To help ease us into these tough questions, and in the spirit of the season, we thought we’d start with five parallel questions that ARE pretty easy to answer: 

Silly? Maybe. But it underscores how having a template like this – just five questions in plain, simple language can deflate some of the complexity, formality and even misnomers that have sometimes surrounded the end-of-life discussion.

So with that, we’ve included the five questions from Engage With Grace below. Think about them, document them, share them.

Over the past year there’s been a lot of discussion around end of life. And we’ve been fortunate to hear a lot of the more uplifting stories, as folks have used these five questions to initiate the conversation.

One man shared how surprised he was to learn that his wife’s preferences were not what he expected. Befitting this holiday, The One Slide now stands sentry on their fridge.

Wishing you and yours a holiday that’s fulfilling in all the right ways.

(To learn more please go to Engage With Grace. This post was written by Alexandra Drane and the Engage With Grace team. )

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1 Alexandra DraneNo Gravatar { 11.27.09 at 9:43 am }

Jeanne –
We’ve been living and breathing engage with grace for about 20 months now, and yet yesterday over our ‘feast’ (as my four year old calls it) – we learned more again together as a family. It’s amazing how this conversation evolves – and thank you so much for sharing the importance of having it. As a family, after our meal, after our walk, after our dessert, we then watched the classic Snow White. My dad informed me he had changed all his answers and now wants to be encased in a gold and glass chamber in our living room. Here’s to getting whatever your wishes may be.

2 JeanneNo Gravatar { 11.27.09 at 9:54 am }


I think the work you’re doing is so important. I was touched last year when I watched your video that talked about how Engage With Grace began. These conversations are important. I think too often people fear talking about it because they fear death. What then ends up happening is there is confusion and unnecessary emotional pain for the survivors who then try their best to sort out what they think the person’s wishes would have been. If discussed in advance, I believe it gives all involved more peace of mind.


“It’s the unknown we fear when we look upon death and darkness, nothing more”.
~~Albus Dumbledore from the Harry Potter series by J. K. Rowling

3 YayaNo Gravatar { 11.27.09 at 9:28 pm }

With the recent tragic death in our family it really forced us to think about these types of questions that people tend not to talk about.
.-= Yaya´s last blog ..Friday Fragments (including YayaJosh wedding pictures!) =-.

4 JeanneNo Gravatar { 11.28.09 at 12:28 am }


Yes, sometimes tragic deaths do force the issue. I do understand why people aren’t always keen on jumping into these serious conversations — but I do believe they are important and I do think having them in advance helps everyone (as opposed to having the conversations after the death has occurred and having to guess the person’s wishes or having various family members disagree about how best to handle matters). When I saw Alexandra Drane’s video on this project last year, I was very moved by it.


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