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New Year’s Resolutions?

For some reason, I have never been one to make New Year’s resolutions. I have the utmost respect for those who do so. It just doesn’t quite work for me.

Recently, my friend Alicia wrote an excellent post:

2010=HOPE

Her post wasn’t a list of New Year’s resolutions. Rather, it was her choosing “hope” as her word of the year for 2010. I really like that idea… choosing a word. Yet, for some reason I didn’t choose a specific word after reading her post.

I mentioned some things to Alicia the other day when I commented on her hope blog post. Here is an excerpt from what I had said to Alicia:

Hope is the perfect “word of the year” for you. Your whole philosophy of life seems to revolve around hope… and that is wonderful. Hope is a very powerful thing.

I don’t have a “word of the year”. I know that many people make New Year’s resolutions or look at the new year as a “clean slate” or “fresh start”. I honestly don’t do this. But I think it’s great for those who choose to do it!

I don’t get very hung up on dates. I don’t get in a tizzy over things like holidays and birthdays. I try to treat holidays to as close to a regular day as possible. I don’t do this to dampen anyone’s spirits. On the contrary, I hate seeing loved ones get frantic preparing for a holiday get-together or some sort of gathering. I strive for peace.

I can’t get all stressed out about such things. Frankly, I’m simply too sick to expend the energy. So, I enjoy the special moments holidays bring but I don’t get all worked up about who is going where on what day and what food will be served, etc.

Birthdays come once a year. They are not a big deal. Turning one year older beats the alternative. So, I don’t get hung up on that. I look at it as each birthday means I’m one year wiser.

While I understand the attraction to looking at the new year as a “clean slate”, I try to look at every day as a clean slate. So, it’s hard for me to look at New Year’s as any different than any other day.

I realize my perspective on all this may be unusual. I’m just generally not one to get hung up on the calendar.

Now, on to your hope theme! I am thrilled to see you in “hope mode” because I know that is a great place for you to be. You are more talented than most at maintaining hope at challenging times and this is admirable!

I’m going to include some hope quotes here. Some reference humor as well as hope because you are very adept at using humor to get through the rough times.

(Then I closed my comments to Alicia with “wishing you hope and peace now and always!!” and included some hope quotes):

“Through humor, you can soften some of the worst blows that life delivers. And once you find laughter, no matter how painful your situation might be, you can survive it.”
~~ Bill Cosby

“To love is to risk not being loved in return. To hope is to risk pain. To try is to risk failure, but risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing.”
~~ Unknown

“May the love hidden deep inside your heart find the love waiting in your dreams. May the laughter that you find in your tomorrow wipe away the pain you find in your yesterdays.”
~~ Unknown

“What seems to us as bitter trials are often blessings in disguise.”
~~ Oscar Wilde

Alicia then replied to my blog comment. She said:

“I believe you DO have a word of the year! And it’s “peace”! Good luck as you live your life in a peaceful manner! You are the only person I know who doesn’t get in a tizzy about getting another year older! Yes, I don’t see the new year as a ‘clean slate’, but more as a way to take time to assess how I lived my last year of life and see if there are any changes I should make to better myself. For one, I am going to spend less time on the computer from now on. That’s one aspect in life I’ve realized I need to cut back on in order to make other areas of my life richer. I am mostly in “hope mode”. But yes, the end of the year does seem to also remind me that I am yet another year down and still without a child. 🙁 But I do try to stay positive and see for tomorrow instead of living in yesterday. Thank you for the quotes!”

The more I thought about what she said, the more I realized she was right. I may not have sat down to consciously pick a word of the year but Alicia “assigned” me a word, so to speak, based on what she knows of me. (For those who aren’t aware, Alicia is an “in real life” friend as well as a fellow blogger. As a matter of fact, I just saw her in person yesterday! Look for pictures coming up from that). Anyway, I think Alicia is right. I think I’ll go with “PEACE” for my word.

Have the happiest, healthiest new year possible. Happy New Year!

“Peace is not something you wish for; it’s something you make, something you do, something you are, and something you give away.”
~~ Robert Fulghum

“Peace is not merely a distant goal that we seek, but a means by which we arrive at that goal.”
~~ Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.

“Each one has to find his peace from within. And peace to be real must be unaffected by outside circumstances.”
~~ Mahatma Gandhi

“I do not want the peace which passeth understanding, I want the understanding which bringeth peace.”
~~ Helen Keller

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17 comments

1 LanaNo Gravatar { 01.01.10 at 1:23 am }

Hope is the best we have to offer. Happy New Year. May it be blessed.

2 JeanneNo Gravatar { 01.01.10 at 1:57 am }

Lana,

Yes, hope is so important. Happy New Year to you too. May it be as happy and healthy as possible!

Jeanne

3 YayaNo Gravatar { 01.01.10 at 10:06 am }

Great peace quotes! Love this post!
Love that you love your “assignment”. 😉
Happy New Year!
.-= Yaya´s last blog ..2010=HOPE =-.

4 JeanneNo Gravatar { 01.01.10 at 12:01 pm }

Alicia,

Thanks! I think I’d love any “assignment” you could cook up for me. 😉

Happy New Year!

Jeanne

5 AvivaNo Gravatar { 01.01.10 at 9:28 pm }

Happy new year, Jeanne!

I guess I don’t really do the resolution thing either, but I do, periodically throughout the year try to take stock of my life and think about what I want to change and how I’d go about doing so. To be honest, after so many years of school and being Jewish, I tend to think of autumn as the start of the year. (Rosh Hashana is usually in September, sometimes October, and of course the academic year usually starts somewhere around Labor Day.) But then spring always seems like a new start too …

Ok, I’m rambling and not sure where I was trying to go with all that. I do hope that the new year brings us better health, less pain, lower costs and much happiness!
.-= Aviva´s last blog ..Serendipity =-.

6 alohamorakatNo Gravatar { 01.01.10 at 9:53 pm }

Happy New Year! I really liked your post and your pictures. My word of the year for 2010 is health. 🙂
KK

7 heidiNo Gravatar { 01.01.10 at 10:36 pm }

What an excellent post! You put into words what i’ve been wanting to put on my blog the past few days…I just couldn’t think of the right wording.

My husband and i don’t see holidays as a big deal. It’s not like we don’t like them, but oftentimes we see them as “getting in way” of everyday life. Not to mention, most times the true meaning of the holiday is lost. We try to make a point of making every day “special” in it’s own little way. That has allowed us to use our holiday days as actual holidays (as in English holiday – we try to take a small trip or adventure to get away from it all).

On the other hand, i will admit i like celebrating individuals’ birthdays (including our pets). But my point isn’t celebrating that they’re a year older, but that they are special and i am thankful for them being in my life. I try not to make it to grandiose. Just special.

As for Alicia’s idea on a yearly word. How great an idea?! I think I may join on the bandwagon if you all don’t mind. I must think of one.

Hugs to all!
.-= heidi´s last blog ..Who Says We Don’t Have Kids? =-.

8 JeanneNo Gravatar { 01.01.10 at 11:55 pm }

Aviva:

Happy New Year! My step-mother-in-law is Jewish; we celebrate both Christmas and Chanukah. So, I’m familiar with the Rosh Hashana schedule through her. Yes, spring can also seem like a new start. For those of us living in geographical areas with four distinct seasons, I think each season can bring about a change of mindset or awakening of some sort. I think there are many events that can act as a catalyst for reflection and introspection. No, I don’t think you’re rambling at all. I think you make a good point that there are many times of year that can trigger us to self-examine. I agree with you… I too hope that the new year brings better health, less pain, lower costs, and much happiness for all! 😉

alohamorakat:

Happy New Year to you too! I’m glad you liked it. I absolutely LOVE your word of the year for 2010: HEALTH! 😉

Heidi:

I’m glad you liked it! I have to give Alicia (who wrote the post 2010=HOPE) credit because without her post, this one would not have happened. Her post was really what got my wheels turning. Her post about hope being her word of the year was what got me thinking on the path that wound up becoming this post.

The part about holidays and birthdays in general is something I have said for years. I have seen too many people get really tense and worked up over holidays and birthdays and I just don’t feel like I have enough energy to go to that place.

Like you and your husband, I don’t dislike holidays. I just don’t get frantic over them. I used to get much more “carried away” in my younger years. I spent too much money on gifts I really couldn’t afford and lost sight, to a degree, of why I was doing what I was doing.

It is much more peaceful not obsessing over details the way I did years ago. For me, it’s very liberating to let go of that pressure, actually. The true meaning of holidays is often lost in the hubbub, I think, for many people.

I like the “English holiday” idea. 🙂 Please don’t feel you have to “admit” to celebrating birthdays as if there is anything wrong with that! Don’t get me wrong.. We celebrate birthdays at my house (just watch my latest video if you’d like to see what Hubby got me recently for my birthday that made me smile)! Simple but very appreciated! We just try not to turn it into a week-long carnival atmosphere… if you know what I mean. I think it’s great to celebrate our loved ones (that includes pets!)

Yes, Alicia’s yearly word idea is outstanding, isn’t it? While I very happily took the “peace” idea she suggested for my word, “health” would have been a close second. As you can see above, alohamorakat was wise enough to claim that word!

I think it would be wonderful if you choose a word that works for you. There are so many words too choose from, huh? You’ll find the one that resonates with you! Let me know when you do because I look forward to reading your post.

I miss you on Twitter. While we only interacted there briefly before I left, I enjoyed chatting with you there. Have you read my many posts about the Twitter impostor situation and online identity theft (including one posted just the other day)? Just see my left sidebar under “Why I Left Twitter” under Navigation. There are lots of insightful comments people posted as feedback to those posts. I highly recommend checking them out. Internet security is so important!

Hugs to all on your end too. That means all four-legged animals need to line up for their Heidi hugs. It’s nice to hear from you. Take care! 😉

~~~~~

Jeanne

9 Jannie FunsterNo Gravatar { 01.02.10 at 3:10 pm }

Jeanne, you are such a dear, dear, dear , sweet friend to Alicia and all those lucky enough to know your friendship.

the sentiment behind all those pictures for her in orange touches me very very deeply.

My word For 2010 is GIVE.

xoxo
.-= Jannie Funster´s last blog ..“Doll Bed With Wine,” “For A Dear Friend” & “Kelly’s Korner, About Two Hours Ago” =-.

10 JeanneNo Gravatar { 01.02.10 at 3:35 pm }

Jannie,

You ought to know all about being a dear, dear, dear sweet friend. After all, it’s your specialty.

Alicia’s love of orange is infectious, isn’t it? I think it’s a cheerful color. I think spreading cheer facilitates healing. So, I say “bring on the orange”. 😉

I LOVE your word for 2010. GIVE is an excellent word! It’s also a perfect word for you… because you consistently give so much to others year-round!

Jeanne
xoxo

11 AllisonNo Gravatar { 01.02.10 at 4:30 pm }

Happy New Year! Here’s hoping for a very blessed new year for all!
.-= Allison´s last blog .."Happy" New Year =-.

12 JeanneNo Gravatar { 01.02.10 at 5:04 pm }

Allison,

Happy New Year to you too! Yes!

I am sending peaceful, positive thoughts your way. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Thinking of you,

Jeanne

13 AmandaNo Gravatar { 01.05.10 at 2:57 am }

What great words!! It’s funny but there are a couple of points in the year when I feel things start anew every time they hit, but that still doesn’t stop me making changes and resolutions at other times if the need or desire hits me. New Year is one of them… once Christmas Day is over I look forward to starting a brand new year with hope, every year hope of what the year may bring… and September and the beginning of autumn is the other time. I think this one goes back to my many years in education and the new year beginning, but symbolically seeing the trees shed their leaves reminds me of letting go of things and a time of quiet contemplation, especially as I find it much easier to think clearly in the colder weather – have you ever noticed that a walk on a cold, winter’s day clears the mind as well as the sinuses?

2010 is going to be a big year for Tim and me – we are moving back to my hometown so we can both buy a house and I can cut my hours at work . I am excited about the effects this will have on my health and wellbeing and also the extra time it will bring me to realise my dream and get this book of mine well and truly written, now that I finally believe I have the ability to do so. It is a year of possibility for us, so I guess that is our key word!

Here’s hoping you have a truly peaceful year you deserve it xx
.-= Amanda´s last blog ..Quick hello … =-.

14 JeanneNo Gravatar { 01.05.10 at 3:41 pm }

Amanda,

You have wonderful insights year-round. I know you spend lots of time analyzing things and tweaking things year-round. You’ve described it nicely on your blog in the course of time I’ve been reading it (many months). I love the way you describe things. Yes, I’d have to agree with you about it being easier to think clearly in cold weather. Despite the fact that conditions like fibromyalgia and Raynaud’s worsen my symptoms with the cold temperatures, I think that I think better when it’s colder too. In the summer, my heat intolerance (including fainting) makes me feel so sick in so many ways. I’ve always said I’ll take snow over that anytime. The heat really messes with my thinking. I may have instances of fibro-induced brain fog here and there when it’s cold… but when it’s hot out, my brain really is severely affected. I do not function well in the heat at all. (When you’re spending all of your energy on staying conscious, not standing up too fast, staying out of the sun, drinking enough water, etc., it’s hard to think straight about anything else). Unfortunately, my neuropathy makes walking a whole new ball game. I used to walk regularly for exercise prior to the neuropathy but not anymore. My feet say “no”. I know what you’re saying, though. I used to love a nice walk on a winter’s day.

Best of luck to you and Tim with the move. That is very exciting you’ll be able to cut your hours at work. I know you have struggled with that. Reducing your hours will most likely help you feel better because I know you have felt you were pushing your body past its limits at times. Best of luck with your book. Possibility is an excellent word! Happy 2010!!

Thank you, Amanda. Here’s to a year of possibility for you and Tim! 🙂

Jeanne

15 Dorian aka coffeesister |_|)No Gravatar { 01.07.10 at 8:42 pm }

Not that my intention is to pimp my own blog here but, er, uh, well; I wrote about exactly this, or at least the issue of resolutions & calendar years, at the outset of 2008..

Two thousand infinity ?

Honestly, it’s worth clicking thru for the Calvin & Hobbes alone. 😉 Moreover, as I explain in my post, I’m not inspired by a new calendar year necessarily but do seek new beginnings wherever possible (not to mention needed ::heehee::). This year, me mum summed up that current need perfectly, having texted the following on New Year’s:

“A sense of purpose is essential when trying to meet the coming year, and leave a sad & difficult one behind, taking only the good from it. It requires a lot of deep reflection & determination with serious prayer.”

She was responding to my quotationaries for the occasion:

“If we take care of the moments, the years will take care of themselves.” — Maria Edgeworth (may we build on last year’s happiest moments in the year to come)

“And now with purpose, full & clear, we turn to meet another year.” — Robert Browning (tisn’t what you do at midnight but in all the moments to come that matters)

We’re determined to establish lives truer to ourselves this year; thus, her follow-up text:

“It’s a brand new day in a brand new year. Make even one small move in the direction you wish to travel. And then another. I will too. And in time we will meet because our paths lead toward each other! We just need to keep moving. 😀 Love is like a magnet.”

Maybe our word for the year is MOVE!? Mine sure is! I hope she inspired you as much as she did me for she confirms what I’ve long held — that individual “resolutions” are not nearly as powerful as mutual goals. Let’s all work together, shall we?

(|_|*ch33rs*|_|)
“I find hope in the darkest of days & focus in the brightest. I do not judge the universe.” — Dalai Lama (let no day be a deterrent, always make a positive move)

PS: I send out quotationaries dailyish so just say so if you’d like to get them.
.-= Dorian aka coffeesister |_|)´s last blog ..Beauty, Bread and the Beloved =-.

16 JeanneNo Gravatar { 01.08.10 at 10:16 am }

Dorian,

Thank you for directing me to your post from the outset of 2008… which has clearly stood the test of time. It was fantastic… but then I think all of your posts are fantastic!

It sounds like we’re on the same page regarding New Year’s resolutions. 😉

Your mum’s quote is awesome. I see where you get your way with words. I love all of your quotes. (Wait a minute. Your mum texts you? Wow)…

Your word of the year MOVE is certainly appropriate given your situation! I hope you are able to complete phase two of your move ASAP!!!

You have the best quotes! Thank you for expending the precious time and energy to comment here when I know you are very sick and unable to do much online right now.

I wish I could do something, anything to make you feel better!!!!!

Take care and I’m thinking of you!

Jeanne
xo

17 JeanneNo Gravatar { 01.11.10 at 11:40 am }

Amanda,

I just emailed you pictures of a sign I saw that said POSSIBILITIES. Given your word of the year, I took a couple of pictures of the sign figuring you might like it. 😉

Jeanne

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