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Love Beats Hate: Blogging Event – Please Join Us!

The first two quotes below may seem like an unusual way to begin a piece on the topic of LOVE. However, I feel the need to provide some context. While my intention with my Love Beats Hate post is to focus 97% of my energy on writing about LOVE, I feel that before I can do that justice I need to very briefly address the topic of hate. The fact is that while this campaign was inspired by many things, the factor that is probably most responsible for its inception was something incredibly negative that appeared on a social media site.


“One’s dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but cannot be taken away unless it is surrendered”.
~~ Michael J. Fox

This quote perfectly sums up my feelings in regard to the situation mentioned above. While the content that the individual in question posted was despicable and aimed at people belonging to various marginalized groups, the people he was attacking can choose how they respond. He does not have the power to take away anyone’s dignity. While the social media situation I just mentioned is one of the biggest factors that inspired this Love Beats Hate campaign, I wish to point out that individuals who spread such hatred online are the exception rather than the rule. There are far, far more people on the Internet (on social media sites, blogs, forums, etc.) who are caring for one another, supporting each other, and… yes… LOVING one another.


“Hate is too great a burden to bear. It injures the hater more than it injures the hated”.
~~ Coretta Scott King

The quote above really captures the notion that the person disseminating hate is actually harmed more by doing so than are any of his/her targets. While the primary targets in the very unfortunate situation I recently witnessed were people who have a disability or serious illness, other people from various marginalized groups were cruelly attacked there as well. It is empowering to know that we can choose how to react to such hatred and bullying. It is reassuring to know that for every one individual who spreads hatred online, there are far more people who conduct themselves in loving, positive, helpful ways!

Love Beats Hate

With so many people (both bloggers and non-bloggers) joining together to shine the spotlight on LOVE rather than on hate, it is easy to see how a negative situation can be turned into a positive one by speaking out on our own terms about the prevalence of countless examples of loving kindness found online… rather than surrendering to those who engage in spreading hate.

“The greatness of a community is most accurately measured by the compassionate actions of its members, … a heart of grace and a soul generated by love”.
~~ Coretta Scott King

If the greatness of a community is most accurately measured by the compassionate actions of its members, then I have been fortunate enough to discover an enormous number of locations on the Internet that are fairly brimming with love!


“Compassion is not religious business, it is human business, it is not luxury, it is essential for our own peace and mental stability, it is essential for human survival”.
~~ Dalai Lama

I believe it is important to share a determination to shine a spotlight on the positive end of the spectrum of online behavior. My goal here is to focus on the massive, seemingly endless supply of opportunities to interact online with people who exhibit loving kindness, compassion, support, caring, concern and so much more. Too often, our gaze may become focused on the extreme examples of negativity online (cyber-bullying, hate speech targeting marginalized groups, and general mean-spiritedness). To be clear, such negative spaces are real and I find them very troubling.


“Bullies are always cowards at heart and may be credited with a pretty safe instinct in scenting their prey.”
~~ Dr. Anna Julia Cooper

Let’s stop and think for a moment. How often do we hear news stories about positive uses of the Internet such as harnessing the power of social media for good causes that help people? How often do we hear about the benefits of people interacting with others online? Chronic illness patients can benefit even more than most, I believe, due to the nature of their situations. I believe the Internet is a PARTICULARLY valuable asset for people with chronic illness, chronic pain, and/or for persons with disabilities. People in these groups that can, at times, become isolated by their situations. For example, people with chronic conditions and/or people with disabilities sometimes find it more difficult to be out and about due to access issues or simply being too sick to leave the house. I have met many patients online, for example, who are housebound or bed-bound but are able to interact with people online thanks to the technology available today. This access to support is enormously helpful.


“Cruelty might be very human, and it might be cultural, but it’s not acceptable”.
~~ Jodie Foster

Again, bear with me while I touch on the negative to highlight the positive. How often have you flipped on the evening news to hear about subjects such as the unbelievable power of online support groups? (I’m guessing you haven’t seen such a story on the news lately… or maybe ever). How many times have you seen a story in the media about a community of patients (formed online and active entirely online) that rallies around all sorts of patients… including people who are housebound or confined to their beds… with their online friends as an important component of their ability to socialize with others and obtain support and information regarding their conditions? (Here I should point out that it is not appropriate for one patient to give another medical advice. I am referring to patients sharing information which can assist them in advocating for themselves when seeing their own physician/s).

Since I started a blog in June 2008, I have encountered a very diverse group of people online. Just as with life offline, there will always be bullies. However, my experience has been that the caring, thoughtful, considerate people far, far outweigh the bullies.

Whether it is on blogs, social media sites (like Facebook and Twitter), forums, etc., I have encountered some of the kindest, most empathetic, caring people online.


“Shower the people you love with love. Show them the way that you feel”.
~~ James Taylor

I have witnessed patients checking in on each other when one knows another is feeling particularly ill or has recently been hospitalized; I have seen people join forces to support causes they believe in that help people and literally make the world a better place; I have watched people transition from more “traditional” roles as patients to roles as passionate activists who fight for their cause(s) and advocate for themselves (in their own health care and on behalf of the patient population/s they belong to). All of the above are actions executed with love – both love for others and self-love…


“Compassionate action involves working with ourselves as much as working with others”.
~~ Pema Chodron

There is no shortage of love on the Internet. It’s everywhere. Are you skeptical of this notion? If this has not been your experience, maybe you just need to know where to look. For all of the negative stories about incidents that happen online, there are so many more that are positive!

This Love Beats Hate campaign was just started on November 10, 2010! Within only a week, a significant number of bloggers have registered to blog today about Love Beats Hate. Even more people have “liked” the Facebook page Love Beats Hate and/or marked the Love Beats Hate Blogging Event page to indicate that they will be participating in the event. Many others have sent messages on Twitter using the hashtag #LoveBeatsHate.

Please do continue to share information about today’s campaign on Facebook and Twitter. It would be wonderful if we can work cooperatively to share the blog posts of those who are blogging today on Love Beats Hate!

One does NOT need to have a blog (or the ability/time to blog today) to be a part of this event.

Here are some ways you can be a part of the Love Beats Hate event even if you don’t have a blog (or the ability/time to blog today):

  • Share links pertaining to this event on Facebook, Twitter, or via email. (Please use the hashtag #LoveBeatsHate for messages sent on Twitter about this event).
  • You can check the list of bloggers who have registered and simply read their blog posts about “Love Beats Hate” on 11/17.
  • If you wish, you can leave comments on one or more of these participating blogs to show your support for the “Love Beats Hate” campaign and to let the blog authors know what you think of what they have written.
  • On November 17th, you can visit the Love Beats Hate Blogging Event page. You never know who you might run into there. Chances are good that you will encounter a like-minded individual who cares about the event like you do.

In closing, I would like to encourage everyone to generously share the links to the pieces written by the bloggers who are writing for this event. I believe it can make a positive difference.


“A small body of determined spirits fired by an unquenchable faith in their mission can alter the course of history”.
~~ Mahatma Gandhi

I wish everyone reading this peace and happiness. I absolutely love blogging and one of the biggest reasons is the sense of love, support, and community I have experienced online. My only hope is that I can give back a fraction of the benefits I gain from interacting with people online.

“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony”.
~~ Mahatma Gandhi

Let’s take care of each other out there. Let’s not let hatred get the attention. Let’s work to make LOVE so abundant that it cannot be ignored or overlooked. I believe we have the power to change the narrative. Let’s focus on fostering and recognizing the loving, caring, helpful actions and words online. This doesn’t mean burying our heads in the sand about the hatred that does exist online. However, let’s not get sucked in to a situation where we are feeding the energy of those who spew hatred. Instead, let’s join together to encourage and acknowledge the love around us each day online. Look around you. It’s everywhere! Let’s work to help each other. It makes us all stronger in the process.

“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.”
~~ Mahatma Gandhi

It’s not too late to join this event. Please join us right here for blogging:

CLICK HERE TO REGISTER. IT’S NOT TOO LATE!

Again, there are many things you can do to support this event if you do not have a blog or are unable to publish a post today.

Looking for more information?

Love Beats Hate Facebook Page

Love Beats Hate Facebook Blogging Event Page

Or, just follow (and use!) the Twitter hashtag: #LoveBeatsHate.

Love Beats Hate!

Peace…


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1 AmandaNo Gravatar { 11.17.10 at 7:47 am }

Jeanne,

This is a beautifully written account of how strong the power of love can be between people, especially those in need. The internet should indeed provide us with more ways to share compassion, not incite hatred, and I thank you for helping to set up and arrange this blogging event.

You are a star, shining so brightly to break through the darkness xx
.-= Amanda´s last blog ..Love Beats Hate =-.

2 JeanneNo Gravatar { 11.17.10 at 8:01 am }

Amanda,

Thank you for your kind words! The Internet should indeed be used as a force for good. Many people worked very hard to help this event come together. It was a cooperative effort through and through.

Thank you so much for assisting me in editing this my post to help me finish it sooner. Pulling an all-nighter certainly wasn’t what I had intended… but with my blog being down all day and evening/into the night yesterday, I am grateful that my blog is back up and running and that I did not lose any data. When I saw you go online in the middle of the night (my time), I was very happy to see a friendly face!

You ought to know all about stars, my sweet friend! ;)

Jeanne

3 CredaNo Gravatar { 11.17.10 at 8:37 am }

Congrats on organizing this very thoughtful and creative online event! I can relate to many points that you make in your blog post, Jeanne (and the quotes are so on target). I have found that, while there have admittedly been some negatives along the path of my social networking experience, these have been overwhelmingly out-numbered by so many positives. Just last night I was able to connect with a Lyme family in WV via a thread on a mutual Lymie’s wall on FB. You know how much that means to me. What a godsend this is for those of us who feel the ever present isolation of being chronically ill with few (if any) in our local support networks. And hey . . . thanks to social media, we finally found each other! <3 <3 <3

4 JeanneNo Gravatar { 11.17.10 at 8:46 am }

Creda,

Well, I definitely can’t take credit for organizing the event. A conversation between Diana Lee and me did set the wheels in motion but there have been so many people who have worked on this since the idea was hatched just seven days ago, it’s a bit mind-boggling! This event itself is actually a testament to the power of the Internet as a cause for good. Without the Internet, we wouldn’t have so many people joining together today to blog, sent tweets, share links on Facebook, etc.

Thank you for your kind words. As you said, the positives truly do outnumber the negatives greatly! That is wonderful that you were able to connect with a family with Lyme Disease. I’m sure that will be a great support to you (and vice versa, of course).

Yes, Creda, if it weren’t for social media you and I would almost certainly never have met. My life is richer for knowing you. So, I am grateful!! :)

Jeanne

5 JennNo Gravatar { 11.17.10 at 9:11 am }

So happy to see your post this morning! It’s brilliant, by the way. :)

It is so exciting to see how many people are focusing their attention on the power of love today.

You & your blog have provided sincere care & support to me. I’ll never forget the excitement of reading my first-ever blog comment (from you!) letting me know I wasn’t alone.

Thanks for everything you do to support others & turning a negative experience into a positive event!!

Love Beats Hate!
.-= Jenn´s last blog ..UPCOMING EVENT – LOVE BEATS HATE =-.

6 JeanneNo Gravatar { 11.17.10 at 9:21 am }

Jenn,

I’m so happy to see you this morning and look forward to reading your post! Thank you. :)

It really is exciting to see the sheer number of people who are involved with this event when the planning of it didn’t start until a mere week ago. I have already read a few of the posts for today’s event and each one was inspiring and creative!

I am glad you have found my blog helpful and I certainly have found yours to be! I was your first-ever blog commenter? Cool! ;)

You are most definitely not alone.

Thank you for everything you do to support others and for sharing extremely interesting information (including some alternative medicine modalities I hadn’t heard of). I think every single one of us is turning a negative into a positive today!!

Love Beats Hate!

Jeanne

7 Lisa @Retro Housewife Goes GreenNo Gravatar { 11.17.10 at 11:55 am }

This is beautiful Jeanne, thank you for posting it! I’m so glad a nasty situation brought forth a beautiful movement.
.-= Lisa @Retro Housewife Goes Green´s last blog ..Love Beats Hate =-.

8 JeanneNo Gravatar { 11.17.10 at 12:36 pm }

Lisa,

Thank you! I just visited your wonderful post. I totally agree… it’s wonderful that something positive was born out of something so negative.

Jeanne

9 Love Beats Hate — a poem | Jannie Funster { 11.17.10 at 1:30 pm }

[...] Here’s Jeanne’s eloquent post for this fest. [...]

10 Jannie FunsterNo Gravatar { 11.17.10 at 1:33 pm }

Hey, Jeanne! I just posted mine.

I really like what you say and agree that there are far far more wonderful loving people online than not, and together we can and ARE spreading these wonderful wonderful vibes.

Thanks for letting me be part of this.

Whoo-hooo!!!

xoxo
.-= Jannie Funster´s last blog ..Love Beats Hate — a poem =-.

11 JeanneNo Gravatar { 11.17.10 at 1:53 pm }

Jannie,

I am proud so say that I was the very first commenter on your very busy blog (quite a feat)! Woo hoo! Thank you so much for all of the effort you expended… That blog sidebar button with pink daisies is so, so nice! You totally rock!!

I loved your post. Of course, I always love your posts. ;)

There are far, far more wonderful loving people than not. Yes, we really are spreading our message of love across the Internet. People are coming out of the woodwork, Jannie. It must be that many people feel strongly about the importance of love.

Thank you for being a part of this!

Woo hoo is right!

Jeanne
xoxoxo

12 JasmineNo Gravatar { 11.17.10 at 6:48 pm }

You rock, Jeanne! I love the quotes you chose for this amazing post. Like you, I wish the news covered more positive stories regarding the Internet, and the power of social media sites.

Kudos to you and Diana for creating such a meaningful event in such a short amount of time. I’m enjoying seeing all the #LoveBeatsHate posts and tweets!
.-= Jasmine´s last blog ..jasmines cove is participating in love beats hate blogging event Nov 17th =-.

13 JeanneNo Gravatar { 11.17.10 at 7:06 pm }

Jasmine,

Thanks. ;) I know. It really would be great if the media focused on the numerous positive stories related to Internet usage. While the media does ‘buzz’ a fair amount about social media, they rarely seem to feature stories spotlighting it as a powerful space for good… and for love!

It really boggles my mind how many people have become involved in today’s Love Beats Hate blogging event. Only with the help of social media could so many people come together for a common purpose (such as this) within just a week’s time, I think. The power to spread information with social media is huge. When that power is harnessed for loving, caring, helpful reasons… amazing things happen!

While I may not have a Twitter account, I too have been getting great pleasure out of seeing the tweets about this event with the #LoveBeatsHate hashtag. Also, I am thoroughly enjoying reading the posts (it’s hard to keep up with them all, isn’t it?) and watching people sharing in this event on Facebook too. There is so much positive energy. It really is awesome.

A couple of posts actually brought me to tears today. As I mentioned when I commented on your post earlier today, yours was one of the posts that resonated with me on a level that actually brought me to tears. I mean that in the best possible way.

Jeanne

14 JennNo Gravatar { 11.17.10 at 7:28 pm }

Oh yes, you were my first commenter! It was late at night & seeing that comment waiting on my page was one of my happiest moments ever!! You were so supportive of me–the naive, new blogger–and all my fears about sharing my endo story vanished. I realized if I could find people like you in the world to support me & share their story with me, there was nothing to be afraid of. You found me during the lowest low of my adult life & I can never thank you enough, my friendo. ;)

You radiate positivity & love, not just today, but every day!
.-= Jenn´s last blog ..UPCOMING EVENT – LOVE BEATS HATE =-.

15 RellacafaNo Gravatar { 11.17.10 at 8:28 pm }

Go Jeanne!! I’m a day late (my time) but I should hopefully get a post up while it’s still Nov 17th somewhere! Thanks for sharing your experiences and for highlighting that there are as many wonderful, positives interactions to be had online as negative :) xx
.-= Rellacafa´s last blog ..Pretty- Little- Mood Lifting Flowers =-.

16 JeanneNo Gravatar { 11.17.10 at 8:57 pm }

Jenn:

Late at night, huh? You’re right… that must have been me!! lol Seriously, now that you’ve jogged my memory, I do remember. I mean… I already knew I was one of your early commenters… but now I have a clearer recollection. I had just forgotten I was your first commenter.

Now I recall you had done a post about finding endometriosis bloggers by Googling and finding the NetworkedBlogs link, right? I remember being excited to find your blog (when I was doing my own Googling and had landed on something to do with your blog and/or NetworkedBlogs, if memory serves?) Your enthusiasm was immediately very evident (!) and I definitely remember connecting with you to talk “off the blog” in those early days of your blog. While you were new at blogging (as all bloggers are at some point!), I would not say you were naive.

I am really happy that you felt more at ease sharing your story after meeting someone else who knows what it is like to live with endometriosis. ;) Jenn, you already made me cry once today and I’m going to mosey along now before I cry again. Just know that you are a very, very special woman who has a great deal to offer the world and I admire you very much!

Last but not least… you are all about radiating positivity and love… every day.

Hayley:

Go you!! No worries, mate! It may be November 18th where you are but it is very much November 17th where I am. Besides, even if you posted “late”… what is the worst that could happen? The last thing I want you doing is worrying about being “late”. There is no late. So, please take your time. ;)

If it weren’t for the Internet, would I have ever had the good fortune to meet such a caring, insightful, hilarious woman as you who lives on the other side of the world from me? I think not! While I no longer have a Twitter account (and you know why!), I will always be grateful for having had the opportunity to meet you first on Twitter (back in 2008!), then through your blog, and then on other sites too. You are highly inspirational and I have the utmost respect for your tenacity, your creativity, and your positivity! Hayley, you spread love with every post.

~~~

Jeanne

17 GyandeviNo Gravatar { 11.17.10 at 9:44 pm }

Jeanne — This has been a wonderful event! So inspiring to see everyone coming together in the cause of love/elimination of hatred. It has been such a joy to share your blog post on Twitter and Facebook. I especially loved all of the amazing quotes. Would love to see this become a monthly event. I know that’s easy for me to say, given that I’m not writing any blog posts, but still, it would be a powerful opportunity to bring many different communities together for a common goal.

18 JeanneNo Gravatar { 11.17.10 at 10:14 pm }

Gyan,

It really has been such a positive event! I have seen so many inspiring/touching blog posts, comments, tweets, and Facebook messages in conjunction with this event. It is really heartwarming to see so many people joining together to talk about the power of love. Thank you so much for all of your efforts on Facebook and Twitter to get the word out about the Love Beats Hate event and to make people aware of the many blog posts published today that are inspirational, positive, and hopeful.

I am hoping that people will continue to look through the posts listed on the Linky Tool (and others that may be mentioned on social media sites but not be registered there, for whatever reason). I think it would be quite impossible to read and comment on all of them in a day. Hopefully, people will keep looking at what’s out there after today is done. I know I have more reading to do! I’m glad you liked the quotes.

Honestly, I think a monthly event is a wonderful idea. Given the level of interest displayed today, I would bet there are others out there who would agree. Your efforts in harnessing the power of social media to direct people’s attention on this event and the blog posts associated with it was every bit as important as any single blog post. I believe part of what has helped this campaign really catch on is the fact that so many people are working cooperatively to get the message out. I agree with you. ;)

Just think what could be accomplished with more than a week of planning!

Jeanne

19 HubbyNo Gravatar { 11.17.10 at 10:30 pm }

Jeanne,
You and your fellow bloggers have done a fantastic job in the short amount of time you have had to plan and develop this. Hopefully this will continue and grow to be a regular event. The world needs more love and less hatred. Hopefully the media will pick up on this movement. Love does beat hate and this event is only a tiny example of that. As other readers have commented, hopefully this will be a monthly event and you will get many hits and comments on all of these blogs. That will really be a sign that love beats hate!
Great JOB!!!!

20 Jenny H.No Gravatar { 11.17.10 at 10:55 pm }

Jeanne,
There’s nothing I can say that hasn’t been said already.
Thank you for inviting me to participate in this special event…I wish I’d got home earlier to post sooner…it meant a lot to me.

<3
xoxo
.-= Jenny H.´s last blog ..Love Beats Hate Blogging Event 11-17-10 =-.

21 BetsyNo Gravatar { 11.17.10 at 11:54 pm }

Jeanne, Your post is beautiful, and the quotes are awesome! Nice job you and Diana have done organizing this event. Thank you.

22 JeanneNo Gravatar { 11.17.10 at 11:56 pm }

Dear Sweet Hubby:

Thank you for stopping by, honey. I know that you don’t spend much time leaving blog comments. I think the last time you commented on my blog was when it was my old blog (Jeanne’s Endo Blog) and I believe your moniker then was “Jeanne’s husband”. I think it’s fitting that you decided to comment today as just “Hubby”… since that is what my online friends know you as. ;)

Thank you for your support, honey! I know that it’s not always easy being married to a spouse with numerous chronic illnesses. Your love helps give me energy to do what I love on this blog. It is amazing how many bloggers did participate today in light of the fact that there was just a week of planning for this event.

I think that it would be interesting to see if people are interested in growing this into a regular event. I believe that the amount of energy involved today in all of the blog posts and the related discussion on social media really does help to put the focus on LOVE rather than hate. I don’t know about the media, my sweet big-dreaming husband… but I do know that many people seem to have thoroughly enjoyed writing about love today and/or sharing the blog post links about it on social media sites. ;)

At this moment, my one day traffic record may be broken at any time. The amount of traffic that a group of bloggers writing about love is attracting is inspiring. Not in the sense of “traffic counting”… but in the sense of that traffic acting as a barometer. I believe the enthusiastic response for this event is an amazing, positive thing. If what I have seen and heard online today alone is any sign, love is beating hate by a very wide margin. Thank you, honey! ;) I love you!!

Jenny:

I absolutely love your post for today! I am really happy that you participated today. Your kind, sweet, caring spirit is always evident. I am very fortunate to know you. Another point scored for the Internet! How else would I have connected with an endometriosis patient who lives in Quebec? I daresay we never would have met without our blogs. ;)

~~~

Jeanne

23 JennNo Gravatar { 11.17.10 at 11:57 pm }

Let’s all give an enormous round of applause to Hubby for all his efforts yesterday to restore Jeanne’s blog!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I was so happy to know she had you there to support & help her!
.-= Jenn´s last blog ..UPCOMING EVENT – LOVE BEATS HATE =-.

24 HubbyNo Gravatar { 11.18.10 at 12:07 am }

Jenn,
Thank you for the credit but the credit really is not mine to have. I only looked into the issue and helped Jeanne work with her friend Cassie to resolve the issue. Cassie really should get the credit for resolving the issue with Jeanne’s hosting company.

25 JeanneNo Gravatar { 11.18.10 at 12:22 am }

Welcome Betsy!

Thank you for your kind words! Diana did so much to make this event what it has been. I am actually having trouble moderating comments as fast as they come in tonight. With the possible exception of the first day of this blog (which had migrated from Blogger/changed names and such), I don’t recall ever having such a challenge moderating comments quickly enough. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not complaining! I am just thrilled to see such an overwhelmingly positive response to this event. So many people have worked so hard to make it happen. It is really inspiring and joyful to see such interest in blogging about love! I look forward to visiting your blog soon!!

Jeanne

26 JeanneNo Gravatar { 11.18.10 at 12:25 am }

Jenn,

Hubby replied to your sweet comment separately.

Jeanne

27 JeanneNo Gravatar { 11.18.10 at 12:28 am }

Jenn,

I should note that aside from Cassie’s efforts with yesterday’s server problem (that Hubby mentioned), Amanda Shortman helped me SO much! When she came online in England (5 hours ahead of me) and I was still awake writing my BLH post, she helped me with proofreading/editing it as I continued to write on my end. How is that for love?? ;)

Jeanne

28 JeanneNo Gravatar { 11.18.10 at 12:30 am }

Hubby,

Thank you for clarifying (to Jenn) that Cassie actually resolved the server issue. At the same time, thank you for all of the investigating you did and for helping me figure out a Plan B. Thank goodness Plan A came through eventually.

Love,

Jeanne

29 JeanneNo Gravatar { 11.18.10 at 12:33 am }

Hey everyone,

I’m sorry the replies here are appearing out of order in some cases. I’m trying to handle them in order but that isn’t always working out. My blog seems to be having a little trouble keeping up. ;)

Jeanne

30 EndochickNo Gravatar { 11.18.10 at 10:57 am }

I love that quote from MJF. He has an inspiring outlook on chronic illnesses, and is a hero to many.
.-= Endochick´s last blog ..lovebeatshate =-.

31 JeanneNo Gravatar { 11.18.10 at 11:09 am }

Endochick,

Michael J. Fox really does have some amazing quotes! He inspires me in the aspect that he has been interviewed about his foundation and he basically said emphatically, “our job is to go out of business“. With so many “nonprofits” these days talking about cures and not showing any progress or strides in prevention, in reducing the numbers of people who have a given illness, in engaging in useful research that will realistically lead to a cure… to see him talk about his organization in terms of intending/trying to “go out of business” really touched me. He “gets it”. He wants to see Parkinson’s eradicated and for there to be no need for his foundation. It is very refreshing to see someone who hasn’t lost sight of the ball, if you know what I mean.

Jeanne

32 Deanna PiercyNo Gravatar { 11.18.10 at 3:45 pm }

Thank you so much for hosting this amazing event. I’ve been online for at least 15 years now and by far the positive has outweighed the negative. I’ve met some of my dearest friends online and look forward to getting to know you better, too.

33 JeanneNo Gravatar { 11.18.10 at 8:49 pm }

Welcome Deanna!

Thank you for writing on not one blog but two blogs about Love Beats Hate! As far as hosting is concerned, I think each person “hosted” themselves. ;) I’m just happy I could be a part of this event because it has been such an incredibly positive experience. I read as many blog posts as I could yesterday and today but I have many more yet to read. I look forward to reading them! The posts I have read so far are heartwarming, inspirational, and loving. It is amazing how many people have responded and how enthusiastically they have done so. Several people have even been asking about making this some kind of regular event. It’s really awesome that so many people have contributed either by blogging, by promoting the event via social media or both. Yes, the positive far outweighs the negative. I have met some very dear friends online too. I look forward to getting to know you as well.

Jeanne

P.S. Congratulations… I’m quite sure that you and Lisa were the only mother/daughter team blogging for this event. ;)

34 WinnyNo Gravatar { 11.19.10 at 1:28 pm }

Having friends that were all but totally isolated due to illness, the web has enabled them to make friends world wide! The social pariah of illness and the inability sometimes to even talk about it with people who are not experiencing it makes the interaction of blogging, social networking, instant messaging, discussion groups even more important resources.

There are haters and naysayers in all walks of life, and some that just enjoy making others lives miserable. It is very difficult to make my little corner of the world dark and dreary as I am a sunny person to begin with, but to victimize persons who for no fault of their own are already vulnerable is the mark of a coward.

That is why events like this are important, because cowardice is something that does not stand up to the light of inspection.

35 JeanneNo Gravatar { 11.19.10 at 2:01 pm }

Welcome Winny!

Yes, it really is amazing and wonderful how much support is available online… especially for those who are chronically ill!

So many illnesses/symptoms are stigmatized or taboo to talk about in general conversation “in real life”. Either people get uncomfortable and don’t know what to say to a person with chronic illnesses, they mis-perceive someone simply mentioning an illness or symptoms as “whining” (when really it is just the person talking about his/her reality!), or they make judgmental/dismissive statements to the patient that are hurtful. They may tell the patient what they think will help them (i.e. something they read in a magazine or heard about from another patient) in a way that implies (or says!), “this is what you should do to manage your illness”. Never mind that these (possibly well-meaning) people typically know just a tiny fraction of what the patient him or herself knows. It can be incredibly frustrating to have such “real life” interactions… sometimes even with our own loved ones who don’t understand (even if they mean well).

On the other hand, patients interacting with other patients (online or off) is a completely different ballgame. The benefits of connecting with others who “get it” is massive!! The advantages of making such connections online is that one can give and receive support even when housebound (or bed-bound) by illness. With the technology available today, people can blog or use social media right from their beds if they are too ill to leave them. Without the Internet, the isolation factor for people who are housebound or bed-bound would be much greater.

The value of connecting with and developing relationships with fellow patients is immeasurable. Yes, there are haters and naysayers in all walks of life. The Internet is not exempt from these people. I am glad that you keep a sunny corner! ;) I agree that people who attack those who are vulnerable are cowards.

I agree that events like this can help to shift the spotlight off of the cowards, haters, and naysayers and onto the loving, caring, supportive, amazing people who forge relationships every day with others who are going through similar experiences. The enthusiastic response to this event has moved me to tears on several occasions. We really are very fortunate to live in a time when the technology is available for making these powerful connections and bonds. It is awesome!

Thank you for stopping by!

Jeanne

P.S. I look forward to leaving you a comment on your Love Beats Hate post. I actually read it last night (or technically this morning) but didn’t leave a comment because I was falling asleep sitting up as it was after 4:00 am when I read it. So, I am on my way to your “Golden Rule” post now!

36 Janeen (chupieandjsmama)No Gravatar { 11.20.10 at 6:30 pm }

Jeanne,
Thank you so much for stopping by my post and for your encouraging comments and your leaving the information regarding Doris Rapp.
Thanks also for helping to organize this wonderful event. I’m proud to be a part of it.

Best,
Janeen

37 JeanneNo Gravatar { 11.21.10 at 12:51 am }

Welcome Janeen!

Thank you for stopping by. When I read your post, my brain was fairly screaming her name. While I have never met her personally and while I don’t ever endorse any doctors, I thought I’d mention her as I figured she might be someone you’d be interested in checking out. Her line of work seems like it might be up your alley.

I was very proud to be a part of this event too. It is wonderful to see what a strong interest there was in it and several people have been asking about whether we can do more in the future. We’ll see about that. :) So, stay tuned.

Take care,

Jeanne

38 Laura HegfieldNo Gravatar { 12.16.10 at 6:56 pm }

Well I just noticed your button on Jannie’s blog today….so I missed this event…but just so happens that I posted about a love: in God’s name…for the Hate is an Abomination Rally in Brooklyn NY tonight.

Happy to meet you!
.-= Laura Hegfield´s last blog ..Freed Verse =-.

39 JeanneNo Gravatar { 12.17.10 at 1:06 am }

Welcome Laura!

I am so glad that you saw the Love Beats Hate button on Jannie’s blog today and followed it over here. Jannie is a dear friend. She was kind enough to create that button specifically to help spread the word about Love Beats Hate. Obviously it’s working!

Please don’t worry about missing the November event. Not only do we have another event coming up in February but people are welcome to blog about it year-round. There is no sense in placing limits on it, right? As far as I’m concerned, the more people take the time to spread the message of love, the better. We are constantly promoting the event on Facebook and Twitter (and bloggers may certainly use their blogs to promote it too).

I saw the post you referenced about love on your blog. Powerful! I have included a link to it HERE since it looks like you had blogged something else more recently that got picked up for the link-back. That way, readers here can check out your post by clicking above on “HERE”.

Thank you for stopping by and introducing yourself and mentioning your own love post.

Happy to meet you too!

Jeanne

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