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Infertility and Father’s Day

I had written this post Mother’s Day For Infertile Patients back in May.

Now, Father’s Day is fast approaching. Guess what? Men affected by infertility hurt too!

Infertility affects couples in a multitude of ways. Infertility can be a devastating, shattering, life-altering experience. Our society tends not to recogize the degree of suffering involved. Many people suffer in silence. Often, people make hurtful comments to infertile patients that sting long afterwards. Society has a ways to go regarding this issue. The media’s portrayal of infertility is nearly always skewed and misleading.

I thought I’d post some tips from RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association.

Here is information from RESOLVE regarding Mother’s Day and Father’s Day:

Coping with Mother’s Day and Father’s Day

My thoughts this weekend are with all of the men and women who are unable to become parents.

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1 SonjaNo Gravatar { 06.20.09 at 1:15 pm }

Thanks for posting this and bringing it to everyone’s attention!

2 YayaNo Gravatar { 06.20.09 at 1:52 pm }

Thank you Jeanne.
Josh (my husband) has been in a horrible mood this weekend and it suddenly dawned on me, ‘OH, father’s day….’.
Yes, he hurts too. He misses our babies that we’ve lost to miscarriage. He misses the years that we could have been spending with our children. He misses not having kids and is getting frustrated with the adoption process taking so long.
We no longer “celebrate” Mother’s and Father’s Day. It’s to difficult to be around family who are happy and joyous and legitimately enjoying their day as their kids run around, while we are grieving and moping for what we don’t have.

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3 JasmineNo Gravatar { 06.20.09 at 5:17 pm }

Thank you for reminding us that men can be affected by infertility just as much as women. Especially since men tend to suffer in silence.

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4 JeanneNo Gravatar { 06.20.09 at 8:42 pm }

I think it’s important to talk about the impact infertility has on men as well as women. Our society needs to be much better educated about infertility.


Yes, I can only imagine Josh is suffering this weekend in just the way you described. I can certainly understand why you would need to modify your holiday rituals for the reasons you mentioned. My thoughts are with you both at this particularly challenging time.


Yes, I think that men are even more likely to suffer in silence regarding infertility. Infertility is devastating. To suffer it in silence must be incredibly painful.



5 Jannie FunsterNo Gravatar { 06.23.09 at 11:50 am }

Someties I’d love to give Society a good boot to the butt for ists hurtful comments. Not on purpose but just careless comments.

Alas, there are not enough sensitive souls to go around.

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6 Jannie FunsterNo Gravatar { 06.23.09 at 11:50 am }

And I so wish I could spell worth a hoot.

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7 JeanneNo Gravatar { 06.23.09 at 5:08 pm }


I’m guessing you heard your share of insensitive remarks during the many years you struggled with infertility and miscarriages. I’m sorry.

You’re right. Many times people make careless comments that don’t hurt any less just because they weren’t said with malicious intent. The end result is the comments can be just as hurtful regardless of whether the person who said it meant to be hurtful. Our society really needs to be more sensitive about the issue of fertility.


8 JeanneNo Gravatar { 06.23.09 at 5:09 pm }


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