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A Non-Mother’s Day

Pamela Mahoney Tsigdinos, author of Silent Sorority.

Regular readers have heard me talk about Pamela’s book. This post (Silent Sorority Review) links to my book review of it on Amazon.

However, this post is about Pamela’s article featured today in New York Times Magazine’s… Motherlode: “A Non-Mother’s Day”.

Here is the link to Pamela’s new article:

Mother’s Day: A Cultural Crucible

Kelly Damron had this to say about Pamela’s guest blog article.

Regarding comments left on the article in the New York Times, I was saddened (but not surprised) to read some of the incredibly insensitive comments that some people posted regarding Pamela’s article. Our society has much room for improvement in regard to support for infertile couples. As Kelly alluded to in her blog post, adoption is not the right option for all infertile couples. Pamela’s book did a great job covering this topic.

As a side note, I highly recommend Pamela’s book. Some of those who commented on her New York Times article could really benefit from reading her book. It provides validation and support for those struggling with infertility, keen insights into what infertile couples struggle with for those who are fertile, and a road map for navigating the landmine-type atmosphere of battling infertility.

My hope is that someday the same type of insensitive comments that some people posted to Pamela’s article will not occur for future articles due to increased awareness, understanding, and sensitivity in our society regarding infertility. It saddens me that so many people seem to lack basic compassion and empathy for those who have struggled with or are struggling with infertility.

This Mother’s Day weekend, I wanted to leave you with Pamela’s article as a follow-up to my previous post, Mother’s Day Mourning.

My thoughts this Mother’s Day weekend are with the many men and women who are struggling with or have struggled with infertility. This is a challenging time of year for those who have lost loved ones as well. Please keep these people in your thoughts.

In addition to the insights provided by Pamela’s book, you can follow her newest blog A Fresh Start.

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1 Jannie FunsterNo Gravatar { 05.10.10 at 6:43 pm }

You are very sweet, sensitive and caring to post this, Jeanne.

It would sure be nice if people did have more empathy for couples so dearly wanting children.

Take care!

2 JeanneNo Gravatar { 05.11.10 at 12:50 am }


I just wish our society could be more supportive of couples struggling with infertility, miscarriage, adoption loss, pregnancy loss…

The comments people left on Pamela’s latest article are no shock to me since I’ve seen them before on other articles. Nevertheless, the cold and cruel words from so many really make me incredibly sad.

Hopefully, someday people in our society WILL have more empathy for couples struggling with this emotional roller-coaster, “tester” of just how much people can withstand, and (sadly) the massive toll it takes on a couple’s finances to either receive medical treatment or pursue adoption. It’s so much more complicated than most people seem to assume.

Thanks, Jannie! 😉

Take care,


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